illustrations of these views in everyday living

scenario 1: your mother wants to visit during a time you have set aside for rest and recuperation - what do you tell her?

character

• tell her you'd love to have her visit you then
• your mother's wants are more important than your own
• don't tell her what you had planned

health

• tell her the truth and suggest another time
• if your mother can't understand your need for rest she probably isn't on your side, anyway
• if you say yes you'll resent your mother
• you're not going to be very good company, anyway, if you're tired