character & health: basic views: interpersonal

child-rearing

character

health

attachment disorder

attachment, bonding and antisocial personality disorder

empathy

empathy and compassion

impediments to empathy

people without empathy

helping others

relationships with the disadvantaged

character

Some of "them" deserve our pity; we should help "them". But "they" must know their place; "they" are not our peers.

health

Many people who work with the disadvantaged want - consciously or unconsciously - the disadvantaged to stay dependent on them, because they like the power - they like controlling others.

Even if you have taken care of yourself and sincerely want to help someone, there's not much you can do to help anyone other than listening (actively) and mirroring. Advice doesn't help unless it's asked for (and accepted); what most people in pain most want and need is someone to listen to them without judging what they are saying - without judging them. You can't change anyone else, but you can change yourself. And helping yourself is the best thing you can do for your community.

respect

character

health

power and responsibility

personal power

character

Personal power and power over others are one and the same thing. Both are achieved through self-control.

health

power over others: control

character

If you do not acquire and maintain power over others you will be controlled by others.

health

responsibility

character

health

judging yourself and others

judgments vs. self-acceptance

character

health

judging

character

health

standards

character

health

rules and beliefs

character

health

sacrifice

sacrifice

character

health

codependence

signs of codependence

the "cure" for codependence involves

love

attachment, bonding and antisocial personality disorder


Character and Health: table of contents