forcing what is perceived into a model of how things ought to be
health
the internal judge, internalized from one's childhood environment, is
the cause of much unhappiness
try to accept yourself for what you are
judging
character
there's nothing wrong with judging everyone
health
when to judge
when you are faced with an unfamiliar situation or person
when not to judge
when you make a mistake
analyze what happened but don't judge yourself
two kinds of judgment
the judgments we must make for our own safety and well-being
the level of involvement I have with someone determines
how much of his/her character I must judge
the judgments we make which are none of our business
when I find myself making this kind of judgment about a person
it is usually a sign that I am projecting disowned aspects
of my own personality onto him or her
standards
character
I must continually compare all my behavior to an ideal, a standard
health
absolutes - e.g., perfection - exist only in theory
what standard am i judging myself or others by?
rules and beliefs
character
rules and beliefs are the foundation of a civilized society
health
if i believe in following a rule, am i following the letter or the
spirit of the rule?
are my beliefs rigid?
do my beliefs arise out of fear?
do i believe that the verbal form of my beliefs is the true form?
or do I believe in the possibility of
nonverbal beliefs - beliefs that cannot adequately be expressed in words
beliefs that adapt to changes in one's life and environment