he tries to control people in his life because he is afraid
he is afraid that if he doesn't control them they'll control him
he fears they'll control him because he
projects his own anger and negativism onto them
he thinks everyone is like him: i.e., wants to control everyone
i.e., he feels powerless; he feels he has no power
not even any power over the processes any isolated individual
must have control over; i.e., control of his basic needs (food, shelter,
safety)
this feeling has its roots in his childhood experiences
his parents abused their power over him; i.e., they hurt and neglected him
he learned to not trust them, to resent their power over him
if he were to relinquish his control over others and over himself he
would come
face to face with his childhood fears and overwhelming feelings of
powerlessness and helplessness