respect

character

• you must earn my respect
• the degree of respect I owe you is determined by our respective positions in the hierarchy of power

health

• two kinds of respect
1. the respect we are all due
2. the respect that is earned
• when some people in power (parents, bosses) demand respect they may, in fact, be demanding obedience
• when you respect others you value their
  • privacy/boundaries
  • autonomy/independence
  • right to be allowed their dignity
  • human rights
  • needs
  • wants
• when you respect others you accept
  • what they say about themselves (because it is true for them)
  • their feelings
    • you don't tell them what to feel
    • you don't demand that they not feel, or show feelings
• when you respect others you don't give them unsolicited advice
• if you respect yourself you will respect others
• you don't have to force people to respect you
  • happy people naturally respect others, out of empathy
  • unhappy people who don't respect you should be avoided
    • if they don't respond to your demands that they respect you