self esteem & self-centeredness
self-esteem, pride in self, shame
- "excessive" pride is considered a sin, a lack of shame
- selfishness is a sin
- people are innately selfish
- selfishness must be overcome by forcing yourself to focus on others
- the result of uncompleted childhood processes
- can be gotten beyond only by indulging it, following where it leads
- many people who are considered self-centered are, in reality, stuck
- they need professional help
- people who are self-centered are unhappy
- they don't know how to meet their own needs
- their ineffective attempts to meet their own needs appear to others
often as vanity
- "the only way out is through"
- we can become less self-centered, more altruistic, only by doing the
work of self-discovery
- The only way out of self-centeredness is more self-centeredness.
- self-centeredness is a manifestation of the organism's attempts to heal
itself, to do what it was not allowed to do in childhood.
taking care of yourself
Character and Health: table of contents