why I don't like the terms 'domination' and 'submission'
- they are too associated with BDSM
- BDSM sees itself as as a subculture; what I am describing in these pages was the norm until the 1970s
- for more of my views on BDSM, see the guide to the BDSM community
- they are too easily confused with abuse
- domination implies the taking of power by force, rather than the giving of power